Tuesday, October 23, 2007

Time heals all

I have a long way to go but I am on my way there. Before ending things with noodle on Tuesday I allowed her to explain the situation in case there was by some miracle a plausible explanation and it would have all been a big misunderstanding. After trying to deny deleting anything and accusing me of invading her privacy she started to give her reasons.

I already wrote an epistle here when I started this post a few days ago but that shall go unpublished and I will try to keep my comments on her reasons short.

  • She referred to me as aunt because she was uncomfortable telling Joe she was out with her bf
  • She kept her conversations with Joe a secret because I would misread it and make a big deal out of nothing. She further went on to explain that I was so jealous lately she didn't want to add fuel to that fire.
  • She still maintained that nothing went on between them and she was just being foolish.
Noodle was under the impression that a storm on jealousy raged inside of me? This was news to me.. I always thought of myself as secure and nonchalant. I guess I will keep an eye out for it in future relationships, I don't believe I will find myself acting that way though. On a purely coincidental note on the Monday before any of her activities were exposed she showed me an email from one of her clean accounts from a friend that asked what were the top 3 things I valued in a relationship and asked me to answer. Loyalty, sincerity and happiness was my response... how heartless does one have to be to face me after that and lie?

16 comments:

Crankyputz said...

I situations like this, you can never fully ascetain the truth, because it seems to be a moving target, you can ascertain your limits and your needs, and obviously noodle can't meet those...so do both of yourselves a favor and move on...

Adrian said...

yep I'm moving on... hopefully to better things.

GC said...

I have to echo something someone said in a comment in last post
she is not ready to be treated with respect and whatnot.
You may as well take the gold standard treatment elsewhere. Lay it on someone who is grown up enough to appreciate it.

Irie Diva said...

(8) let it burn, let it burn, let it burn (8)

my theme song when i went thru a break up...i see u have a category for break ups i hope u dont have one for make ups tho...this one needs to be burnt imho

owen said...

Man, I don't know so it go. I get the jealous vibe at times and I just avoid situations where I know I'm going to be uncomfortable

Melody said...

"Time" is in de title of this & de previous post. Quite apt, IMHO, since timin' is crucial -- so it's better this happened now -- no divorce, no alimony, no child support, no custody battle ... U get de point. Now let's see dat smile wheh a brake de girls dem art an' a mosh up dem mind.

Tami said...

I should share my experience with you.Trust me they are ohh too similar.

marangand said...

Loyalty, sincerity and happiness are good things to value in a relationship.....Don't Compromise on those...

Way to go....

Dutch Pot said...

You heart is in the right place with those values. You are protected though...don't you think? I think so....you were rescued and when you ignored the presence of your shield... it had to go into overdrive! So who is your obeah man? LOLLOL

Tek bad tings mek joke? But never compromise brother - NEVER! Good luck with love for the future...may you find love that brings peace and genuine hearts.

Lene said...

honestly, you need to bounce. from now on, anything she does will be under scruntiny and it will make both of you miserable. i've seen people break up over less, so don't feel like a loser or anything.

just take the relationship for what it is, and take the positive out of it. everything has an expiry date...

Adrian said...

the presence of your shield what is dutchy talking about?!?

@melody: you are one smoooooth talker.. *blushes*

Dutch Pot said...

Shield is that sense/power/intuition which lets you know when you are in danger or liekly to be hurt. If you are spiritual - it is the protection from God/Allah/Yahweh etc., other's just see it as their natural sense of protection.

scratchie said...

Sometimes we just have to know when to call it quits and do what's best for ourselves. Keep looking and you'll find a better person who is meant to be for you. All the best.

Fiyah said...

Well everybody said it already... so... what else ah gwaan iyah?!

bobby said...

Live!!! ... just keep on living and then smile cause life is good.

jamsprint said...

yes yute, let her go... , move on on with your life... you have your standards, and that situation started to smell like fish tea. In my foolish opinion those reasons sounded pretty weak, and i'm just upset over the whole thing..
Woman I tell you...
Love dem.. but I fraid a dem!